When you became a mom, did you have any idea how many people already knew how to raise your children better than you? Were you prepared for them to so willingly share their advice? Did you realize that the people with the best parenting advice are the ones that don’t have kids?
If you’re like me, you sure as hell weren’t prepared for the “mom light” as I call it. The “mom light” is on you from the moment sperm meets egg. From then on, your every move is suddenly spotlighted and evaluated. People question your parenting choices - you’re pregnant, should you be eating that? Are you really letting your child go there? OMG, you’re letting your baby cry it out?!? How did “mom knows best” become a popular saying with all of the people that apparently know better?
Well, mom does know best, and my vision is for all moms to feel confident in that. My mission is to empower moms who visit In the Mom Light to make the best possible decisions for their family. I feel that every mom makes slightly different parenting choices because each family must balance their personal beliefs and situation with the latest and greatest information available to us given where science and applied knowledge stands today (read: the best advice today can be proven wrong tomorrow).
You can’t control what the critics say, believe, or do, but you can control how it affects you. When you’re confident in your choices, you won’t feel like you have to defend them and you won’t care as much what other people think about them.
I wonder if all moms were confident in their parenting decisions, would we even have these so called “mommy wars?”
So what do we do here?
Moms at In the Mom Light never take themselves too seriously, but can be kind of intense about their parenting. Two things unite us – we are busting our asses to raise healthy, confident, and well-adjusted children, but at the same time, we want to feel good about ourselves and our parenting.
Since moms are short on time, the pages of In the Mom Light help sort through and summarize the abundance of parenting material out there to bring you the most real, helpful, and current information available. I also post plenty of “for entertainment only” content because every mom can use a break now and again as well.
I am a realist, so complaining about the many, not so fun, aspects of being a mom is acceptable here, even welcomed, but at the end of the day, my hope is that we all just have “those days,” but we are feeling confident more often than not.
Although I do try to stay positive, I promise to never sugar coat the road ahead. So… hold on to your mom jeans and try not to wet your pants (thanks to that post baby [lack of] bladder control). Admit you’re not perfect, but that you’re doing your best. Give yourself a break, have a drink, and embrace being In the Mom Light. I know you are awesome.
Now go wipe someone’s butt and try not to get crap everywhere while you’re at it…
No shit show to tend to? What would you like to do next?