Here is what went down as we were about to get in bed:
David: I’m going to get in bed.
Me: Wait, I have a question.
David begins shutting door to bathroom that I am in.
Me: What are you doing? I just said I have a question, and you’re shutting the door in my face.
David: I am going to bed, and I don’t want the light to get in the baby’s eyes when I open the bedroom door.
Me: Ok, but I said I have a question, so it’s kind of rude to shut the door in my face and walk down the hall to open another door while I’m talking…
David: [annoyed and peeking through a small opening in the door] anyway… what’s the question?
Me: I don’t know I forgot, but I think it was important. [long pondering pause] No… never mind, it wasn’t important.
David: Ok, I’m going to bed.
Me: Wait, I just remembered my question, and it was important. I was going to ask if I should wake the baby up to feed him before bed.
David: No, absolutely not.
Me: Ya, I think I’m going to do it.
David: I’m not giving my opinion anymore.
Me: NO, I NEED your opinion sometimes because I’m very indecisive, and you’re very confident with your decisions. It’s just that here, I didn’t really want your opinion.
David: Then, why did you ask?
Me: I guess I was really just looking for you to affirm something I already knew I wanted to do.
David: So how am I supposed to tell the difference between when you really have a question and when you’re just looking for affirmation?
Me: I don’t know, but you should learn how.
David: Good night.
This is a real convo, almost verbatim, that we had last night. My poor husband, lol…
So tell me – am I the only woman who sometimes knows what she wants to do but just needs some sort of confirmation that it’s not a totally dumb idea? Or am I a nut bag who needs to make an extra therapy appointment ASAP!?!? I know… I know… what I really need to do is work on my confidence, which is WHY I go to therapy